Monday Motivation: How To Be The Best & Authentic You

August 31, 2020

Life is a flow of ups and downs, and it can easily place you inside borders of who you're 'supposed' to be. I've always struggled with pinpointing the exact person I'm 'supposed' to be, and because of this, I tend to mold into the shapes of what is not my authentic self. We're all human, and we all have insecurities. I wish I knew while going through college, even high school, that being your authentic self is worth something special.

I've been on this journey to explore and discover my authentic self throughout the past five years. I've learned that it isn't going to happen overnight, and it will take a lot of work with my inner self. I wanted to write this post to bring awareness to women and men going through the same battles I've gone through and telling you that it will happen. You will be able to find your authentic self, and once you do, life will start to seem much more beautiful and light.

I never was one for routine. I've tried many times, but it just never appealed to me to do the same thing over and over, every day. So instead, I make mindful lists of what I want to accomplish during the week. Below I explain some examples of what I try throughout the week.

Being Nice To Yourself

We've been so acclimated to the way society has shown the many times' someone talks down on themselves, be it as small as an "I'm so stupid, I should've known this" or "She has such a beautiful body, I wish my body looked like that." It brings negative energy into your mind and heart, and it frankly doesn't help you in the journey to becoming your authentic self. Speaking kind words to and about yourself should be viewed more as an everyday practice, not as a conceded act.

Practice Mindfulness

I love this quote because mindfulness isn't just breathing exercises, but a lifestyle change to view life, your life, through a nurtured and loved lens. Some days I lean on my mindfulness practices to get me through something tough, and other days, I practice mindfulness just to feel at peace. There isn't only one way of practicing; you end up using it every day for a happier life.

Some examples of my practices are writing, journaling, doing photography, cuddling/playing with my cats, and speaking with my loved ones.

Moving Your Body

Lately, I like to move my body to slower exercises. Ones that don't require going from point A to point B in a matter of time. Yoga has helped me regain strength, flexibility, elegance, and confidence in myself. Having these traits helps me mentally on my journey to become more wholehearted and authentic.

Relaxing Your Mind & Meditate

Something most people don't know about me is that I can be really paranoid, really easily. This stems from an unbalance in my childhood memories, and trauma can make someone continuously look out for their well being. So having gracefully bowed to meditation took some mental preparedness and willingness to let go. These traits allowed my mental health to heal and blossom. Now when I feel overwhelmed or anxiety-ridden, I bring myself down by closing my eyes, turning off my brain, and practicing simple breathing exercises to let go.

I hope this article finds you well, and perhaps you may have learned something small from the way I live my life.  If there are any ways you practice being the best and authentic you, please share below in the comments, I would love to hear! xoxo


  1. I love all these ideas, Ashley.

    1. Thank you, Debbie! I believe it's always best to treat yourself with the utmost love and care :)

  2. Great photos!!! These turned out really well.

  3. Thank you for sharing this! It's something everyone needs to hear! So glad you continuously wlrking on yourself :)